E-IQ: DEVELOP EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE

EMOTIONAL IQ : WHAT IS IT?

Emotional Intelligence: What is it? And why is it important?

The capacity to be aware of, control, and express one's emotions, and to handle interpersonal relationships judiciously and empathetically.

This is a tall order for many, master yourself first, before you master life.

Emotions are the quality through which we experience our lives. 

The same experience had in a negative mood state, perspective, or negatively assigned meaning will be experienced as bad; while in a positive mood state, perspective, and meaning that serves you, will be experienced as good; and the bad less painful.

You will proceed in action and coping in healthy in helpful ways in your life when you can see clearly through and work in concert with your emotions. And it is a key to empathize with the feelings of others rather than assume or project your own feelings upon others.

"emotional intelligence is important because it is the key to both personal and professional success and happiness"

IF YOU CAN NAME THE BEAST YOU CAN TAME THE BEAST

BE ABLE TO ACCURATELY DESCRIBE YOUR EMOTIONS

Identifying your true emotions. Expanding your emotional vocabulary. Why it's important?
There are six basic emotions, and approximately estimated to be twenty seven possible emotions humans can feel, and many more words available to describe those feelings.

Emotions are felt on a spectrum: some of us are so detached from our emotional self that if we were asked what we felt we honestly would not have an answer we wouldn't know; while on the other end of the extreme some of us are so intensely connected to our emotions that we are hijacked by them act according to our feelings and even perceive them to be accurate facts; rather than simply one more sense and tool to take into account for the valuable information and insights they provide.

If you wish to gain more control over your emotions you must be able to comprehend accurately what you are really feeling. We have superficial feelings like anger that arise to hide, the deeper more accurate and painful emotions, like rejection loss grieving etc. There are also many more words than "Happy" to describe blessed, grateful, joyous, exuberant, etc

In order to tone down or tap in to your emotions in order to have a less chaotic life as a result of being overly reactive or an empty isolated feeling life as a result of not being able to understand yourself and gain insight into your wants needs wishes and desires and for all to have more meaningful peaceful relationships you must have the vocabulary to describe accurately the REAL emotion beneath the superficial and begin to ask yourself WHY am I feeling this way. Remember emotions come from within. In order to accurately describe your genuine feelings to deal with them effectively in a way that serves you in life you must have the vocabulary to express the feeling accurately. Also remember that feelings are felt in the body as well as in the mind. Learn to listen to and feel the bodily ques and connect them with their corresponding emotions.

WHY BOTHER ATTEMPTING TO COMPREHEND AND CONTROL YOUR EMOTIONS?

WHY ATTEMPT EMOTIONAL MASTERY

COMPREHENDING EMOTIONS STEP 1

E-IQ: Why invest in growing your emotional mastery?

Feelings aren't facts but they are valid and valuable information.

They exist in us for a reason. They are a piece of the puzzle. Just as the rest of our senses, touch, taste, sight, hearing, and smell. Emotions are a sense that we should be intimately in touch with and competently comprehend. Emotions are not as straight forward as they appear to be. It takes work and effort to track backward accurately what truly triggered a specific emotion in you once you can identify what that emotion is.

They are not facts, they are not from without they are made from within, a negative mood-state could be attributed to anything from a negative situation or a bit of indigestion from a bad burrito you ate.

But once you begin to be able to accurately identify and understand your own emotional information and accurately identify where it came from you can then begin to address what triggers negativity and add what triggers positivity in your emotional state ; that then translates to a more positive quality through which you experience life.

As stated above the quality of your emotions is going to dictate the quality of your life; and the health of your resilience, coping capacity, stress management, suffering, satisfaction, fulfillment, action, success, happiness, and relationships with others.

The more you understand what you feel and why you feel it the more you can verbalize your wants needs and desires, set boundaries, set goals and dreams, limit what hurts, add what helps. Creating a much happier life for yourself.

And the more you comprehend, honor, control, and effectively manage, feel, and healthfully react to your own feelings; the happier you will be, the more you will understand yourself, the better you feel about yourself the better you expect to be treated; and when we can deeply connect with our own true emotions we gain the capacity to recognize all humankind have these emotions the more your empathy and treatment of others improves.

"HE WHOM MASTERS HIMSELF IS MORE POWERFUL THAN HE WHOM CONQUERS THE CITY"

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